Posted by Toph on October 13, 2004, at 7:38:44
In reply to Re: group dynamic, posted by Dr. Bob on October 13, 2004, at 2:05:18
> > I just wanted to note the curious ommission in your citation.
> More evidence that I'm not perfect. :-)
> Seriously, I left it out because it didn't have to do with the point I was trying to make. But what kind of countertransference did you see me as having?
I appreciate the humor in your response. I was saying that leaving it out was conspicuous, as if you intended (consciously or unconsciously) for us not to see the whole message. Could it be that the idealization dynamic works both ways? The group expects you to be perfect so that somehow this pressure either externally imposed or self-imposed causes counter-transference (whatever that is)? Isn't there a famous phrase, "I don't know what counter-transference is, but I know it when I see it"? Somehow, someway, without hearing the intonation of your voice, a part of the group detected sarcasm,condensation,ridicule, something bad in your question to newwife. I submit that your multiple PBCs and no block either meant that you felt some culpability or you were pleased with how the group handled the matter. If I may be so bold as to speak for others, many of us would like to think it was it was a little of both.