Posted by alexandra_k on October 10, 2004, at 20:19:34
In reply to Re: one last thing..dr bob, posted by Toph on October 10, 2004, at 20:13:34
> I think it must be very difficult for Bob to review a thread after the fact. I really got rapped up in the heat of last night's thread of Jess'. He may find that I posted something in which he sensed contempt, but can fair post mortem judgements be made when you weren't there in real time? I think, for example, that some of Jess' ire in her second thread was fueled by others (including myself) who chastized Bob for what he asked her. I hope he can take that into consideration when he looks at the specifics of what she said. When a topic is hot, it's not just a series of detached carefully thought out statements. There is real emotion during a flurry of posts.
I suppose that in reviewing a thread one can only go by the objective words on the page, and consider whether they imply judgement or offence to others. It is hard to be careful with what one says when one is caught up in the emotion of the moment. Thats when I find it helpful to try and distance myself from what I have written as much as possible and read through what I have written as objectively as I can before I hit 'submit'.