Posted by Kali Munro on October 5, 2004, at 19:46:20
In reply to Ta lots and a question, posted by Fi on October 5, 2004, at 15:23:01
I enjoy chatty posts. :)
>>>In more general terms, its maybe not surprising that over the long time I have been on and off the boards, there have regularly been people challenging the boundaries/rules/guidelines that Dr Bob uses in facilitating the boards.<<<<<
Sure, that's human. People have different perspectives about how a board should be moderated, some people feel confined by rules and others do their own thing without thinking about the rules too much. People have had different experiences with being members of groups, families, boards, chat rooms, etc. and may have strong opinions about how things can work here. If it's an important issue to someone, it's healthy to speak up respectfully when you disagree. It may not mean that you get what you want but it still might be important or healing to do.
>>>>I suppose that is inevitable (and I admire Dr Bob in persisting with it all so long term!) I expect its just one of those things which is bound to happen, and sometimes go on at length. *Is there a different perspective us posters can use to address this maybe a bit quicker/effectively? Do we leave it to Dr Bob?* <<<<
I'm not sure I know what you mean by "address this more effectively." Address what? The fact that some people don't agree with the rules and express that? If so, is it a problem for you? Does it bother you that people challenge Bob? If that's the case, you could say how you feel about the rule or about the challenge. You might want to look at why it bothers you and express that. For example, some people are uncomfortable with the tension involved and it might help to simply state that. Or, you might agree with the rule and feel the need to state that, which is fine too. You might want to think about what the issue is for you -- sorry I wasn't clear what the issue for you was.
>>>>I hope that he realises that there may well be a silent bunch who dont mind a change, and therefore dont get involved in the discussion.<<<<
I see, you're concerned for Bob? I'm sure he knows that there are many opinions among members, some of which are expressed and some that aren't. But maybe you want to tell him that, as you just did! :)
>>>>I have occassionally pointed out to people that dont like the restrictions that there are lots of other chatrooms/boards etc where people can say exactly what they like, but that never seems to address peoples' concerns.<<<<
No, it wouldn't, because they want to be here and they want to have a say in how things are done. Your comment could sound like you're saying 'if you don't like it, you can go elsewhere' which doesn't get at what they're feeling, thinking, and asking for.
>>>>Finishing comment: I think it helps a lot that there is an Admin board. Means its optional if any of us even see the posts here, so we can choose to stay in a more tranquil board and therefore more supportive and focussed on our needs, but also have a context for discussion about the process/boards.
Yes, I agree. It's good to have a place to talk things out and deal with process.