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Re: A monologue upon The Rules » Larry Hoover

Posted by verne on September 4, 2004, at 22:03:52

In reply to A monologue upon The Rules, posted by Larry Hoover on September 4, 2004, at 12:34:11

Lar,

"posters simply reinvent themselves" and come back under another name - is an excellent point. I hadn't even considered that possibility.

On the blocks, my sympathy is with Dr. Bob. Some of the posters even admitted it was against the rules in their post and proceeded anyway. They said something like, "I'll be spanked" or "I'll be blocked" but here goes.

I live in isolation, have no friends and am an infrequent visitor to this site (although I used to visit more often 3-4 years ago) and seeing a request for a donation with a lot of "incrowd" support made me feel even more of an outcast. As another poster indicated (can't find it to quote it) it made me feel very uncomfortable.

And for the big block, once again, I agree with Dr. Bob. I may have been blocked years ago myself and left upset but now I see a beauty in the "rules of civility" even if I can't completely wrap my mind around it or even have the hang of it myself.

When I look at the threads gone bad, most of the time someone is trying to convince, convert, or change someone else's mind - to win them over and, in the end, win the debate.

Discussion shouldn't be about changing another's point of view or "winning" but about helping, sharing and exchanging ideas. Even the "peacemakers" that jump in are really trying to change someone's view. And finally, the outcry over the block, was an attempt to change Dr. Bob's point of view.

Instead of all this verbal wrestling, where we try to get the other person to cry "uncle", we ought to endeavor to understand their view, and seek to find common ground.

Verne


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