Posted by Dinah on August 4, 2004, at 10:46:06
Gross incivility is easy, because I know the authorities (Dr. Bob) will handle it. Snide remarks that fly under Dr. Bob's radar are no real problem either.
I find that my main problems are the things I where I can't rely on Dr. Bob because he considers them civil academic debate, no matter how insensitively expressed. Things where posters make themselves vulnerable by expressing something important to them, and are met with "debate" on whether therapy is useless, a particular therapy is nothing more than the placebo effect, a condition is a fraud perpetrated by unscrupulous therapists, feeling anything for a therapist (never mind expressing your feelings) is inappropriate given that it is strictly a business relationship, etc. To Dr. Bob academic debate, to posters an important Relationship, Hope, or Core belief about oneself that can't easily be viewed with clinical detachment.
I know that the proper "behavior" under Dr. Bob's policy is to ignore such posters or to politely express one's own beliefs using I statements.
But I am left with the conclusion that to be vulnerable on this board, now that it has grown to a certain size perhaps, is to bring hurt on myself. And since limiting my vulnerability on this board also limits its usefulness, I am at something of a loss.
Do you have any suggestions on being self protective without being guarded to the point of making the board ineffective.