Posted by Fallen4myT on April 7, 2004, at 15:42:44
In reply to please be civil (trigger- suicide, sexual abuse), posted by EmmyS on April 7, 2004, at 15:00:06
I am not referring to anyone in particular and stated that from the start. You did not see me list a name *or* a thread *or* a topic. So I am not JUST referring to suicide and or sex issues or even words. My concern is (and I AM a rape and incest survivor they are just the tip of my ice burg..my DX is PTSD I have posted to that) that people who need help *as much as you and I* do, are *leaving or not posting* because SOME people and I did not say YOU..complain and awful lot. Hard on was O.Ked by Dr Bob as it is defined as "sometimes" I am posting and speaking in generalities. I have emails from people who have posted in here for a long time (and NOT who you think I am speaking of but) who aren't posting because of other people's issues with posts. They are silenced to make a few more comfortable..what about them???? Not me, I have no complaints against me..I am more feeling sorry for people many of you know and loved who no longer post..have you noticed a few people missing ? I do wish suicide posts and SI threads and others aways had a warning issued...language as long as civil cannot be policed so sex words and so on are going to be there. When the topic has the word Hard On in it if it triggers one..why open it... I have MAJOR complex PTSD I do not post my issues 1. because they identify me 2 they would trigger many of you like mad..YOU would be stunned....I see a post I do not like it I move on BECAUSE I want THAT person to get the help they seek and not seek my own comfort level.
Again, my concern is for the whole not just a few. We all get hurt and are uncomfortable but I just try to police myself and hope others would not complain so much...people ..not me...are being hurt by that.
You say the sexual provocotive words bother *you* and for that I am sorry ..but isn't that an issue you would maybe want to look into and post on and allow the others to express themselves in an adult civil manor as they see fit at the same time? I go into ANY psych site figuring there are a million triggers for me and let them roll off. I have to to allow others to be themselves and get the help they seek
Somehow, I think if people knew how much they hurt someone else who posted within civility rules by their critical posts they would think more before they send a complaint in or post one...AGAIN THIS IS JUST GENERAL