Posted by EmmyS on April 7, 2004, at 15:00:06
In reply to Re: please be civil » Fallen4myT, posted by Dr. Bob on April 7, 2004, at 12:03:04
> I agree, posting something about your own issues and their possible role in your reaction might be an interesting exercise -- and might help others respond to you supportively...
I best I can tell, my "chronic" problem with posting comes down to two.
1) Related to requesting people not post suicidal intent on Babble. I did apologize at that time and I did explain my perspective. To repeat it - my mother suicided when I was the same age as Sandy's children. I was a slightly irrational, emotionally triggered blob.
There are possibly 100 reasons why Sandy is not posting. For Fallen to apparently blame any one person, even when doing it obliquely, was unfair and hurtful. Sandy has a dozen people here who love her, she knows that. We all want her back and wish her happiness and safety.
2) Terminology. Wow. I thought this was such an innocuous request. Apparently not so. The request comes from someone who works all day, and often into the night on an inpatient psych unit. This unit is specifically for trauma survivors. They are mostly longer term residents. They are primarily survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Despite the headlines on Catholic priests, my px's are usually abused by their own fathers. Victims are of both sexes. Some have lived "in the system" since childhood because of it. When I come to Babble I know some people here are open about being victims. Some are not, but I see the signs. There are many people here dx'd with PTSD, BPD, Disociative disorders, etc. because of the sexual abuse they have survived. I simply want to protect the more vulnerable people from upset.
I don't care about the other words you care about. Babblers can curse up a storm, I don't care. It's the sexual words, the provocative words, that bother me. When other words are available, why not request they be used to protect our fellow Babblers?
Had I said that all in the first place, I could have saved a lot of trouble. However, I thought it was a simple, adult, polite request which did not require any explanation.