Posted by wendy b. on September 17, 2002, at 10:15:53
In reply to Re: on second thought.... » trouble, posted by Phil on September 17, 2002, at 8:14:47
I write for myself and for (at least) two other people who are currently blocked, and so cannot voice their opinions...
I hope you get blocked for your post to Trouble, copied below. (In fact, I don't see why Bob jumps all over some people, but allows this post to stay, but we'll leave that to another post. ) I think what you wrote is one of the most insensitive messages I've ever read here. I hate to paraphrase Bob, BUT, as he likes to say, no matter if the other person offends you, retaliation is not the way to go about solving the problem. It just escalates further and further.
To say to Robin: "Get over it," is as unsupportive as you can get. Personally, I know that Robin has moved FAR away from her former life, and is indeed moving forward and healing. So the hell what if she's not doing it at YOUR pace, at the pace to which you think she should be moving? What if she's having a set-back, huh? Or maybe she's quite well, in fact -- what if this is one of her moments of clarity, where she sees the horror at its most ugly? And you wish, out of your own desire not to think about 'such things,' to have her just shut up and/or go away.
Congratulations on your own movement forward in your pursuit of mental health. Everyone should be just like you...
"How dare someone challenge someone else's personal pain, as if it all equalled out in the end...?"
> Many of us here had very tough childhoods, all kinds of abuse.
> I don't hear anger when you post here, I hear hurt. Maybe someday you'll come to grips with what you can't change. I'm still trying.
> You can be the most angry person on the planet or you can turn that anger into helping other children who have been hurt. It's black and white, trouble.
> You're loved here by many people and most, I'm sure, would love to hear serenity in your posts instead of morning DJ shock value.
> You were abused by a sick person but you can come to grips with it. Or you can remain as you are. It's not my business but it is my business if I have to read posts from someone who thinks they are the only goddamned person on this planet that's been fucked out of a fair shot. Get over it.
> I'll take 2 weeks to be able to say that.