Posted by Dinah on July 13, 2012, at 17:21:29
In reply to Re: Re Instead.... » Dinah, posted by linkadge on July 13, 2012, at 11:54:08
Yes, I suppose if I had a different type of kid, the same response wouldn't work. Thank heavens I have the kid I do. I'm not a particularly authoritarian figure. Good old genetics. Nature *and* nurture.
I don't think a swat on the rear is a horrible overreaction to a kid running in traffic. It seems like the sort of thing any anxious parent might do, no matter what their theoretical orientation, when their child terrifies them witless.
But I'm not altogether certain why a mild spanking would cause a child to remember any more than the natural screech of terror such an action would bring about, along with explanations of just what the consequences should be.
I've always liked natural consequences better than arbitrary ones, whether the arbitrary ones involve a spanking or a time out. It isn't always possible, but when it is natural consequences are the best teacher of all. (And no, I don't mean letting your kid get hit by a truck.)
I also think that otherwise good parents who believe in non-abusive spankings cause far less damage than, for example, emotionally abusive or neglectful parents. Or parents who let their kids do whatever they like. All styles of parenting have their natural consequences.