Posted by linkadge on July 13, 2012, at 11:42:23
In reply to Re: Re Instead.... » linkadge, posted by Dinah on July 12, 2012, at 10:00:15
>"Because I said so." and a judicious spanking >were superior to explanations.
But at the end of the day.....you are the parent....and yes...."because I said so" is many times fully jusitifed.
If a cop arrests you, it **doesn't matter** if you think that your speeding was justified. It **doesn't matter** if you understand his logic. If you run away....he will come after you and take you to the ground. And, guess what....it may hurt a little.
Too many children these days *do not* see their parents as the authority figure.
Yes, of course, step a) is trying to reason with the child. But in the real world (unlike the steralized microcosm that some people seem to think that the little 'perfect angels' operate in) children sometimes don't 'like' your decisions (rational or not).
You can reason with your 10 year old son that riding a dirt bike without a helmet is dangerous. You can *think* that he understands, and that it is getting through to him. However, sometimes he will ride without a helmet anyway, because children can be stupid (because they are children and they make stupid decisions somtimes), and they can go against a fully rational argument.
What some people don't understand is that humans are *not* always rational creatures.
I sometimes drive without a seatbelt. Logically, I *know* that this is stupid. Would it be abuse, if my 65 year old father gave me a slap and told me to wear a seatbelt. No! Infact, it could be argued that the little slap is a mild reminder of the kind of ***excrutiating pain*** I'd be in, if I went through the windshield.