Posted by greywolf on April 21, 2007, at 11:13:49
In reply to What's Wrong With Me??? I Do What Worked and Doesn, posted by Phillipa on April 21, 2007, at 10:52:21
Phillipa:You have to learn to stop doubting yourself. It doesn't happen overnight. Start with short, simple plans, and write yourself a note before you go to bed. It may sound stupid, but make a note acknowledging that you may have second thoughts the next day, but encouraging yourself to carry through anyway. Read the note first thing when you get up in the morning, and try your best to see your plan through.
I know this worked pretty well for a friend of mine with social anxiety issues, and the key seemed to be picking a realistic, limited goal, and at the beginning selecting goals that can be accomplished soon after you wake up so you don't have hours to psyche yourself out of it. For instance, he started out waking up early and walking a couple blocks to the corner store for a cup of coffee before the rest of the neighborhood was up and out. Eventually, he made a nice routine out of that, and then started to tackle additional goals.
Greywolf
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