Posted by Kellie on February 13, 2007, at 21:35:21
In reply to Re: klonopin, posted by michael0720 on February 11, 2007, at 20:24:37
I was just looking through some threads looking for some answers to some of my own questions but, your note took me by surprise. I guess it was because I used to be your wife. Meaning, it sounds so much like I used to be. Questions before advice are, if she doesn't mind going to the doc, have you ever been with her? If it is possible to go, then go. Trying to get her to see things the way you do at this point probably null. Therefore she probably isn't being upfront with doc either. If she is and doc is still continuing same treatment, find a new doc. Chances are great that she wants to be the person she was 19 years ago to. Sometimes we can't get there. Sometimes the medicine makes it worse. Not knowing her symptoms makes it hard to give advice but, sounds like quality of life for her isn't any better or may be worse than with no meds.
The key for me was finding the right doctor for me. That doctor may not be the one for her, or the next guy. Support is always good as long as it is not contributing to her self destruction. Sometimes cool level headed but firm directives are helpful. If you continue to bail her out with the kids and family, with the idea that you are protecting them, you probably aren't. Again, that depends on the age of your children.
I know it must be frustrating because I lost my husband during my down spiral. I am not any longer angry at him for leaving sometimes I am amazed that he stayed for as long as he did. But, having him leave did not cause me to "wake up" or get over it, or get help either.
The winner for me was to get off of the meds that did not work and finally find one that did.
Hope this helps! Good luck to both of you
poster:Kellie
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