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Re: In-laws dont' believe I'm sick, How do you han » CEK

Posted by B2chica on June 15, 2006, at 16:12:24

In reply to In-laws dont' believe I'm sick, How do you handle, posted by CEK on June 15, 2006, at 14:24:43

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i rewrote this three times. the first two were filled with explitives and clearly appropriate but not helpful.
all i can say is you are an amazing person. first that your not in jail for killing all those people. i can't tell you how mad this got me...about everything you said.
1)first that You helped 'her' get that job and now she's bad mouthing you???
2)that she is judging your living space...that she clearly hasn't offered to help out any...
3)that she is assuming that she is now a pdoc and can diagnose you as 'lazy' and no real MH issues??? what was her degree in again?
4)that she enables a 38 year old and dares to say YOUR life isn't on track???
5)va..vac...i can't say it...a FREAKING VACATION???? please tell me she has cheese for brains cuz i can't take it.

ok. so i'm not being very helpful.
the people at work you have known for five years, this lady only been there a year? do you have good friends there...someone that can verbally 'stick up' for you? do they know what is going on with you?
i personally can say that if someone (especially a MIL) came up to me and started talking about how 'lazy' this person was...blah blah, i would be turned off by this person immediately. hopefully your co-workers will be the same. and ANYONE who is a mother should understand that even if you were NOT dealing with a MI that three kids and a full-time job ALONE would not expect your house immaculate.

but i want you to know that YOU are and incredible person 1)for being a great mother DESPITE your hubby cheating on you, not helping you, you work issues, and mostly all your emotional turmoil going on. through this you've managed to somehow keep your household running.
but unfortunately this is where you need an advocate in your corner like a pdoc or therpist (do you have one btw? it would be good if you started to see one...i think they could help with dealing with the week -to- week) but also they can double what i'm going to say.
you really need to concentrate on yourself for a little while. so the house has some dirty clothes on the floor for a while, your house won't fall down. OR try to delegate some of that...it doesn't sound like you are getting much help from ANyone else. sometimes the once simple chore of doing laundry can seem so overwhelming, but we here understand. so let the chores slip and take care of yourself, sleep if you need to, eat healthy. try to get some excersice in during the day (outside preferably).
and your diagnosis is NOt an easy one, so be sure to listen to your pdoc (if you trust him/her) make sure they know all the stress going on in your life. i can't imagine, cuz not only are you going through this unreal emotional cr@p, you are probably dealing with sideeffects of new meds and such.
the finances i mention last because they can be the most overwhelming of all. but be assured that they will get taken care of. if your bills are stacking up maybe its time to get assistance, check with your pdoc and let him/her know. maybe they can suggest a program that can help out with medical bills. also there should be some type of 'general assistance' organization in your state that can help you out with this as well...it may even be through your hospital. but sometimes those hospital billers can be nasty. just remember, as long as you are making Reasonable payments they CanNOT do anything to you.

notice i didn't bother to even metion the comment from the 38yr old boy? ya...i mean come on...

and remember to breathe...and take one day at a time.

as for your MIL...i have a little mini canon over here i can stuff her into a blue and white suit and shoot her somewhere over the pacific if you'd like ;^)


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