Posted by mel32 on December 7, 2004, at 8:32:30
In reply to soo happy to find some info, posted by perkidoom on December 6, 2004, at 9:39:16
> I believe I am pmdd. Im 33 and have been to doctors who thought maybe depression maybe manic depression. I dont totaly fit in that catagory because It revolves around my cycle. Iam so scared I am newley married and driving my husband away to the point of him just wanting out at times "during those attrociouse weeks". I seem to have 0ne week a month where every day is stable but the rest of the weeks I am so crazy.
> I do crazy things like run away for the afternoon swearing never to come back, to thoughts of sucide I make terrable acusations to my husband, have jelouse rage and sever mood swings. All of witch totally close my husband off to me and I end up totally exahuasted from the whole or deal. "thinking what was all that about>" Its like for 1 to 1 1/2 weeks a month Im loving and happy like a sunny spring day then for the rest I am an evil storm of unstability. I am seeking some psciatric advise tommorrow. I really want so bad to have a normal life and live in love and harmony with my husband. I want us to be happy and have a child, however he doesnt want to have a child with me when Im unstable. so I get even more insecure about the outcome of all this. Have tried anti depressants dont really help at all was on hormones they just messed up my cycle. My gyno said in sever cases like mine she has performed hystorectomies with success. But they had children all ready. So I cant have a child if I dont get stable but if I want to be stable I might need to end my periods so either way child birth is not looking bright for me. It makes me even more depressed and crazy during my bad weeks. I think my husband is so to the end of his rope with me and I am really trying to seek help. I dont really know what my question is but any POSITIVE feed back would be so great for me and my husband. Thanks for listening
I have been where you are, except that I had a son 6 years ago, and my pmdd got worse. I tried many anti-depressants, to no avail. I also tried birth control, and became suicidally depressed.
I am much better now, and here is what I prescribe. Eliminate caffeine, above all, this was really contributing to my mood swings. Drastically reduce your sugar intake. Drink 2 quarts of water a day. Exercise 5 times a week. Eat healthy, high fiber, etc...Most important, keep a calendar on the fridge with your period marked, and highlight the 12-14 day period before your next menstruation so that everyone(you and your husband) knows when the crazy train is scheduled to arrive! I believe that pmdd is a serious physiological problem, but I also believe in mind over body. So if you know what you are up against and when, it is much easier to rationalize things and calm yourself down. When i feel irrational feelings coming up at my bad time, i can say uh oh, my period is coming, and I know that my tendency is to totally overreact and it diffuses it a little. Then sometimes, i just go and cry and scream into a pillow. It is very important that your husband understands that this is a serious hormonal imbalance, and that you did not ask to be this way, but that you are willing to make the changes necessary to help your body get better. Also, Estroven PMS formula available at health food stores is AWESOME! It really does calm you down in less than 20 minutes. Check it out and good luck! Post a message to me if you want to exchange emails or if you have any questions. Melody