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Confused » elbee

Posted by bozeman on April 2, 2003, at 0:18:20

In reply to Re: good suggestions plus one » bozeman, posted by elbee on March 30, 2003, at 20:40:35

Elbee,

I am postitively bewildered and extremely hurt that you found my attempts to lend info that might help others by sharing my (embarassingly extensive) experiences regarding different diet programs and philosophies to be offensive. I am sorry you were upset, but I confess I am at an utter loss to see how a statement about me, made by me, could have upset you so -- therefore I must simply accept that you are offended and leave it at that. As for starting (in your words) "a thing", I don't believe I did. The meaning you apparently inferred certainly was not the meaning carried in my statement. Again, I am truly sorry you are upset, but I can't (and won't) apologize for something I didn't do.

If you were to go back and re-read the words that you indicated you took exception with in my post, you will see another "possible" meaning of those words -- and in fact, the one that was intended -- merely that I can and do offer *support* freely to many, many people, but "information" and "opinion" are a different matter entirely. I can tell people "information" -- what I know about the science and theory behind something (which is more sometimes than others), what experiences I've had with it (if any), and anyone else's experiences I am aware of. I try to leave "opinion" out of it as much as possible and stick to the "information" piece, as I am not so presumptuous as to think I know what will work for anyone. Everyone's physiology is unique and they will respond uniquely. That's where the "generalizations" come in. I simply try not to make them, regarding how something will work (or not work) for an individual.

The "title" of the post, that seems to have somehow added to if not caused your reaction, was actually a conglomeration of previous posts. When Beardedlady responded to my answer to her post (which had been directed to me) for suggestions to keep Zone from being boring, she chose the title "good suggestions" for her answer. The "plus one" was my addition on the next post to indicate I had added one other point I had forgotten to include in the original list. My post was directed back to Beardy, so again I am bewildered as to how you found it offensive.

I am sad you took it that way as you seem to feel some injustice directed at you has occurred. Perpetrating an injustice -- any injustice -- is something in which I would never knowingly participate. When I saw your post to me, I became so extremely upset that I was not able to respond in a timely fashion and support you, so that you would know that what had happened was merely a mistunderstanding. Without even knowing me, you managed to press my most treatment-resistant button -- being rejected because someone read sinister intent into something I said or did, and made "a thing" out of it instead of simply asking me. It's taken me two days to become calm enough to respond to you at all, so the meaningful window for me to offer you support for your upset has likely passed, and for that I do apologize.

One reason I responded to your question about the Zone in the first place was that I thought I had something worthwhile ("information") to add to the discussion, that was not already posted -- in other words, something new. The other reason was that you are new here, and I wanted you to feel heard and welcomed as I did when I first began posting. I probably won't risk it again, as frankly I can't afford the damage to my psyche from what feels like an unprovoked attack.

Good luck to you, and I truly hope you find what you're looking for.

bozeman


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