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Re: serenity and peacefulness » BarbaraCat

Posted by Iago Camboa on September 5, 2002, at 13:29:59

In reply to Re: serenity and peacefulness » Iago Camboa, posted by BarbaraCat on August 31, 2002, at 15:58:03

Dear Barbara,

It is me who thanks you so much for your kind words. You are right that it is a little disorienting to come back to 'normal life' once again after a few so 'full' days: I could stay a couple of days more but it is also true that perhaps the best is leaving just when you are being appreciated the most...
Please don't complain that in America there is not 'that kind of extended family situation': I know you live in a very gifted and beautiful country (my cousin that was there some 10 days - she has two married cousins in the US plus one in Canada and a 4th in Britain and they gathered there this time - came back with the best impressions on the kindness and gentleness of American people) and I personally have seen many impressive images of solidarity and human love almost one year ago now, following last year's Sep11...

However I would not say that the 'family sense' I've spoken about to you is common anywhere: I have the examples of my own family of the paternal side and of both branches of my wife's own family. Nowhere the situation is even remotely similar to what I have described to you of my mother's side family. I think it is somewhat of a privilege conceded by nature and due to a lot of concurrent factors not always easy to discern that have acted in the past and continue to act today; and am convinced that that common heritage of so many people should be maintained and transmitted intact to our descendants as something of precious and valuable: and that seems enough to me. I don't want to know everything and I will not enter into the details of the causes of that remarkable phenomenon, but I know and shall continue to tell and point out to the newer generations about this and that details I remember and recall often about their own grandfather(s) or grandmother(s) they often didn't know about and happen to continue to appreciate to be told, much of it has happened with myself and my cousins in the past.
Not all things have always worked 100% perfectly inside the family, and I am honored and proud to have contributed as I could and was needed at a certain point in time to the well-being of all members of the family, especially those who were then needful, mainly there where the links were particularly stronger and not everybody was acting as they should (because all people are human and will always have defects and shortcomings). A few things I learned inside my family and have made as I had seen, namely that debts of gratitude toward the fathers (or mothers) should be remembered and paid onto the children or grandchildren when occasion arises, mainly and especially if those fathers (or mothers) are now dead. And on and on if I was not certain of being boring and outright annoying.

Do you still intend to change to Xanax? How far have you arrived with your tapering of Remeron? Is your lithium always working? How is your 'fibro'? Is your 'bearing' of yogini making you more beautiful? Have you been making sex for the benefit of your health (and your husband's)? What particular nutrients you are taking would you recommend the most? Have you been sleeping reasonably well? What has lately been catching your fancy? I most often read your posts and always delight with your writing talents. You are a most dear friend, did you know? At times I love all that comes from you, your every word.

Yours always, Iago


> Dear Iago,
> Thank you so much for your holiday memories and experiences. It sounds so warm and filled with the kind of family love that we all long for. What a huge clan you have! There must have been many tears of laughter and joy. And the locale sounds like Paradise. It must be be a little disorienting to come back to 'normal' life once again.
>
> In America, we don't have that kind of extended family situation at all, although everyone talks about wanting it. Everyone is just too busy, and it's now that the lack of a loving community is being acutely felt. It's difficult to go through a depression or other health issue and to feel alone and isolated. Thankfully, I have good friends, husband, and social support system, but I've become estranged from most of my relatives. It seems that many of them have had depression, but whether due to biology or life circumstance, or both, who can say? I yearn for that special enfolding love that only family can provide.
>
> Bless this internet for providing the means to locate our 'tribe', and for you, dear tribe member. BarbaraCat



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