Posted by IsoM on May 4, 2002, at 12:27:55
In reply to Ugly.., posted by LiLAngelJenna on May 3, 2002, at 19:20:09
Jenna, it's your family that's ugly - ugly inside where it really matters. How anyone could be so cruel as to tell a family member that they're ugly, is horrible.
Your mom & brother (especially HIM) must be very sick themselves to try to inflict their sickness on you by such comments. Perhaps if you view them as the sick ones in need of help, you'll feel better about yourself.
I have a dear friend (our hearts & souls are connected) for over 30 years now. Over the years, she's become very overweight (she was bulimic as a child & teenager with domineering parents). But to me, she's still the most beautiful person I know. I adore her & I only notice she's overweight when I pull back & see her with unbiased eyes. Beauty truly is from the inside out.
Still stating that, I highly doubt you're ugly. I can honestly say I've only met a few really ugly people in my life from a distance & didn't get to know what they were really like. I think that the best way to deal with your brother is to ignore his comments & don't even respond to them. Don't cry or yell, or anything. If they hurt badly, don't let him see your reaction. Perhaps, express your pain by writing it down & then ripping it up rather than let him know how it's affecting you. Without fuel, the fire will go out - without a reaction from you, he'll give up sometime.
It sounds like he's trying to express how he feels about himself by reflecting it on you. He's obviously unhappy about himself & wants you to feel miserable too.
Jenna, I look at other young people around me at work & honestly, I see so much beauty in them. It's not their make-up, clothes, or physical features, but the animation in their faces, theri eyes when laughing & smiling, their sweetness & innocence yet of the enormity of this world's problems. I'm quite sure YOU are beautiful!
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