Posted by sid on May 3, 2002, at 20:38:01
In reply to Ugly.., posted by LiLAngelJenna on May 3, 2002, at 19:20:09
Well,
not everybody goes out and parties at 20, some people prefer other things at that age. What do you want to do? Go out? Read? Go to the movies? Watch TV? What you want is what matters, not what 20 year old's are supposed to do.And about being ugly, well, I always thought I was ugly, and while I'm not beautiful, I've learned (from meeting people and having them tell me) that I have charm, personality, I can be fun to be with (if I'm in a good mood!) and overall I'm relatively attractive. I still have trouble seeing it, but I guess it's true. While people don't turn around on the street to stair at me because I'm beautiful, they don't either because I'm ugly. Which leads to my question: are you really ugly, or have they (your family) made you feel that way? Even if you were ugly (which I doubt), I know a few "ugly" people who overtime I've come to find attractive because I now know them and love them. It's all relative.
Now what I think you should do: go places, have fun. Take a class of whatever you feel like doing (danse, painting, knitting, whatever), AND get to know people and yourself. Meet people in a setting that does not intimidate you too much and that lets you develop your personality and your relationships (friendships, love, whatever good may come out of it that you're willing to get into). Try group therapy perhaps and ask - am I ugly? See what people tell you. Try to improve your appearance (we can all do it, models do it and they are beautiful to start with).
Finally, being ugly is no reason to kill oneself. What needs to end is that your family treats you like that. They need to know that they're giving you a complex and that it's unhealthy. If they don't stop, you should think of getting a place of your own so you stay away from their negative influence. You need to toughen up or get out. Don't let them hurt you anymore. I know it's easier said than done - my family still bothers the keck out of me, but don't despair and don't let their disrespectful behavior make you think that your life is not worth living. Perhaps they're not worth your attention.
Take care of yourself! Do stuff you like, be active, meet people, and don't spend your life in from of the mirror - there's a lot more fun to be had in life!
- sid
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