Posted by Aerin on January 18, 2001, at 11:07:19
In reply to The Twisted Shield of Social Status, posted by Cass on September 16, 1999, at 19:13:24
Cass,
You're certainly not mentally ill for noticing the behavior-I've lived it too. Have you read anything about being the child of alcoholics? The information applies to children of children of children of, etc.- in other words, the behavior (the narcissm, emotional brutality & neglect) is something that your family may have learned generations back, and carries with them, even if they never imbibe. You might try reading 'The Drama of the Gifted Child'(specifically about children of Narcissists), or any of the Adult Children of Alcoholics books(just skim over the substance abuse part). They have REALLY helped me process this, and also validated the reality that you may find others so skeptical of. The only way to win is not to let the assholes who raised you win- move on, gently.
Best of luck.
poster:Aerin
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