Posted by Kath on August 18, 2000, at 0:27:37
In reply to Please listen an maybe help!, posted by Vesper on August 16, 2000, at 21:10:01
Hi Vesper. Glad you've posted again. You sound like a kind, likeable person to me, and you deserve to be treated well.
Sounds like you're putting alot of your "happiness" eggs into one basket. If our happiness get soooo tied up depending on one person, it's very easy for us to get hurt.
I'm going to get on my "bandwagon". If at all possible, I'd suggest you attend a CoDependents Anonymous meeting!!! If you want to ask me anything about it, please do so.
It really doesn't make alot of sense to let our happiness depend too much on another person...it's okay to enjoy being with another person - to love them, like them, have fun with them, care about them. But it's important to FIRST love ourselves, like ourselves, be able to have fun by ourselves, care about ourselves. I used to feel like you do about my first husband. When he left I was devastated. I went to counselling for 3 years & got 'way healthier. But CoDA has helped my in 3 1/2 months probably as much as the 3 years' counselling!!Take care of yourself; keep posting.
Warm thoughts. Kath
> Hi, I haven't posted in awhile, things have been kinda overwhelming. I am seeing a pdoc and "case manager" in Santa Monica. They have me on Wellbutrin SR and Ativan(1mg at bedtime) I have not taken the wellbutrin an a week or so, and the ativan is hit and miss. I have a girlfriend Wendy, it's hard cause she's younger, and knows it all, if you know what I mean! She can make everything hurtful she does sound like it's my fault. I'm so afraid to be alone again I will let her treat me any way she wants. I think I will kill myself when she finally decides to leave me. I'm 33 years old and not very successful in the accepted sense, and I can't see anyone else ever wanting to be with me. I listen to Indigo Girls and she likes Eminem! ack!!!! I try to explain how that kind of vitriol is sick and hurtful, but she just thinks its "funny." I love her though, I see the pain she has been through, and the potential for her life and want to see her blossom....sorry I;m rambling. Anyone know the effects of moving to another state while on SSDi?
> Thanks
> Vesper
> I love you guys and gals!
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