Posted by Cindy W on June 6, 2000, at 21:03:08
In reply to Re: That person hates me/negative thoughts--Cass » Cindy W, posted by Cass on June 6, 2000, at 13:28:02
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> > Cass, I can really relate to what you wrote about emotional abuse. I'm glad that you realize that thinking the negative thoughts does not make you a bad person (that's still something I'm struggling with). On the light side, the other day while driving, somebody "flipped me off" for no reason I could fathom, then drove ahead of me for a couple of miles with his finger high in the air. Instead of feeling I did something wrong, I was able to think, somebody is having a really bad day!!--Cindy W
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> I think that is awesome that you were able to perceive it that way. I think your perceptions are a little more benevolent than mine. When something like that happens to me, I feel that I've made a breakthrough by fully acknowledging to myself that the person is a jerk and that their behavior has nothing to do with me. Intellectually, I can realize that fear is behind their hostility, but that doesn't keep me from being effected by the hostility. Anyways, I'm so glad to hear you are getting better. I really have never been able to love myself in the past; my therapist has helped me with that. On the other hand, though, I've also fallen madly in love with him. Take care!!!!Cass, I know what you mean! I feel better about myself, but I too have fallen in love with my therapist! What's a person to do???--Cindy W
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