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ADD --child like

Posted by Renee N on January 9, 2000, at 0:23:38

In reply to Does it all ADD up?, posted by dj on January 8, 2000, at 23:11:33

> Just scanned your various comments and I'm curious why you all chose to put the label ADD or ADHD on this transitional problems Perhaps it's a problem of introversion vs extroversion or whatever the heck you might want to label it. I id
> with much of what was stated above but I am not ADD, though Janice previously kept trying to float that theory by me...Frankly I think North Americans are too fast to label ourselves with too many maladaptive or hyper-bolic descriptors.
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> The question was asked what do kids have in common with self-described ADDers (and I would add those who don't use that or necessarily any labels). They are human and don't like to be distracted from something they are focused on, so why pathologize that?
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> > How about that? I was a daycare teacher for awhile too. I was also a live in Nanny for four years and the kids went thru exactly the same meltdown transition problems. My question, what do ADD'ers have in common with small children? I'm sure there's an answer somewhere in somebody's research.CarolAnn

I'll try fo take a positive outlook comparing adults with ADD symptoms and children. Weboth like to do whatever we think of right now, with no planning. We speak before we think, interrupt because we just have to say what we are thinking right when we are thinking it. We tend to seek excitement. We drift through our days with no plans, sometimes our whole lives. You'll see us flitting from one activity to another and another often leaving things hald done and /or in disarray.e We demand immediate gratification. We love to talk. We are usually not secretive, if you ask, we'll tell.
We cannot judge time very well. We require supervision, rewards, and directions for tasks we don't find interesting. Our minds wander, helping us to be creative, as do our lack of inhibitions. We feel very frustated when there is too much stimulation. We have no clue how "normal" adults do what they do and find adult responsibilities quite boring. We feel very sad and ashamed when criticized or "caught" messing something up by those we love. We want to please everyone, and really want to be good lovable competent people who make our loved ones and ourselves proud. our self esteem is quite fragile since we struggle to remember all that we need to do, but the kids usually have parents and teachers to act as constant "coaches".
Yes, everyone probably has these qualities, but it is a matter of degree. As I've said over and over, if you could follow me for 24 hours, you would understand the difference. Talk to the non-ADD spouses, children and siblings of diagnosed ADD adults. They will tell you that that person has always been absentminded, late, pokey, unorganized, impulsive, a daydreamer, space case, procrastinater, loses things, doesn't recall what they just heard, etc.
I don't care so much about labels. I just want people who don't struggle with these challenging characteristics, personality traits, symptoms, mental problems, handicaps, disabilities or whatever they are that we call ADD(Yes, I know that the latest official label is actually ADHD, but I don't have the H and am writing from my own experience.) don't just write us off as lazy whiners or whatever. I don't know anyone who would choose to live the life of ADD if they could be "normal".
Sorry I ranted and raved, but my family is making it very clear to me lately that they are tired of me obsessing about ADD and/or depression and my meds. How can I not talk about things that invade my mind, body, actions, and heart every minute every second of every day? I can see how they are all sick of it. Like I'm not!?
I am so grateful for this forum where I find such complete understanding. Thank you all for sharing. I think I'd lose it without this outlet at this point in my roadd of life. I am trying to make it a road to recovery and self actualization.


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