Posted by Greg on April 25, 2002, at 15:00:32
Well, NaShay and Mary were both very nervous as expected. The doctor took them both back and kept them both in the room for the entire time. Mary said it was more of a feeling out process to see where her head was at more than anything else. She asked how she was coping with everything and if she had had any recent suicidal thoughts. Mary said for the first 15 or 20 minutes Nashay's answers were real short and to the point and she seemed very reluctant to talk about suicide. But she did open up and start talking more freely once she got comfortable. The one thing that NaShay kept going back to was that she felt like her Mom and I hear what she says, but that we don't really listen to her. She also talked about how much her and her Mom have been fighting over the last year or so and how it's almost always over stupid, meaningless things. This has always surprised me that they fight so much because they are so inseperable. They go everywhere together, the grocery store, clothes shopping, the mall, everywhere. When they watch TV, they always sit together. I've never understood how two people that are so close can fight so passionately.
Anyway, they seemed to have gotten some productive dialog going and they both looked relieved when they got home. The futute appts will be just my daughter by herself and the doc assured her that anything she says will be kept in confidence unless it involves suicide. If she feels that NaShay is in danger, she will let us know. And she had NaShay make a pact with her that if she gets in that place she will immediately talk to an adult, me, her Mom, her sister. If she feels she can't talk to any of us, she is to call the doctor anytime 24/7. I thought that was a great thing. The doctor also said that she will be wanting to get myself and Brandon (my son) involved on some level in the future. She said that it's important for NaShay that not only she go thru a healing process, but the whole familly as well. That makes a lot of sense to me.
It's a start and there's a long way to go, but I feel good that she is getting help. She overheard me talking to Shar on the phone yesterday, she told me last night that she knows that I think I'm a bad Father. She said she wouldn't trade me for anybody else...Pretty cool kid.